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Another Anti-dote to Complaining: Humor


After spending a week engaged in creative play, check back and see how this worked for you after your mindfulness training from the previous weeks. I found a great question this week: Which choice will bring more love into the world?

I changed it to ask which choice will bring more creativity into the world because I see them as intrinsically linked. More joy almost always follows from creativity as well. You probably have seen the potholder quote you see in stores like at Cracker Barrel: “If mama ain’t happy, ain’t nobody happy.” Well, there’s something to that (more for some of us than others…) and I know when I’m being creative, then this mama’s happy. And those around me are too.

Having a sense of humor about what’s hard in your life or what’s wrong in the world, and expressing it creatively (and by that I mean even just joking about it with friends and family) is a deeply important practice. When you are laughing about something, you are by the very nature of it stepping back from it. Humor requires perspective and un-attachment, in the Buddhist sense. If it’s not already, humor needs to become an important part of your spiritual daily practice. And I don’t mean you gotta tell knock knock jokes at the office (although my 8-year-old has some killer original ones…I’m so proud). What I mean is you need to cultivate the ability to see what’s funny.

Okay, quick comedy lesson. There are only 3 things that are funny: the familiar (like celebrity impressions or when a friend tells you about her 4-year-old putting underwear on over his pants – cuz we’ve all been there…),  irony – which is also called incongruity or the unexpected (like if Sarah Palin showed up at a peace rally), and finally, misfortune (Dick Cheney shooting his pal in the face). Or some combination of these, like Dick Cheney showing up at a peace rally with his underwear on over his pants. Okay, got it? So, no need to be mystified or intimidated by comedy. It’s pretty simple.

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Katie Goodman’s Very First Blog


So the first thing I am proud to have accomplished today as I sat down to write this, was to discover that the word blog, scrambled spells “glob.” Now this may not seem like an insight worthy of a self-help author and political satirist, but it explains why it’s taken me so long to breach these waters.  What none of us needs is more Glob. And if you’re tired from the holidays and say to your husband, “I’ve gotta go write my blog,” it comes out “I gotta go write my blah.” So, with this in mind, my goal with this new blog is to be efficient, helpful, observant, irreverent, occasionally lewd, not depressing, fun, and void of long run-on sentences with too many self-aggrandizing adjectives describing my intent… oops.

Today is the first day of a very new, much-appreciated chapter of my life. Let me introduce you to my new Managers. Erik and Dawn Christensen of Loretta LaRoche Production are the shizzle. (My Microsoft Word dictionary does not recognize the word “shizzle,” but it doesn’t recognize “blog” either, so really, it needs move to a city.) Saint Dawn and Sir Erik will be managing my solo show, as well as “Broad Comedy,” and my speaking engagements and frankly they are mildly insane to do so, but I love them for it. They have not yet figured out that I am a recovering control freak, so please keep that between you and me. HOWEVER! This is a perfect opportunity (a.k.a. bitch of a learning experience) for me to learn to let go and let them do what they do, which is of course much better than I can do it, so that I can do what I actually do: create comedic havoc and piss off the extreme right-wing while maintaining that I want the country to be less divisive.

Each blog, I will offer some useful practices and pithy observations (see promised pithiness above), so for this one, join me as I commit to a spiritual practice for the New Year, which is:

No Whining.

Now, I live with a 7-year old, so I am very good at telling other people not to whine, but it’s actually my profession to sing a good long ditty about what’s wrong in the world/culture/hair-removal-products all around me. HOWEVER! I am going to go on a complaint fast. This is coinciding with a vacation and news-blackout, which should help a hell of a lot. I will check back in once I have mastered the art of complaint-free living. (So you may not hear from me for a few years.) I must admit I have tried this several (read: 10) times too much failure, but I don’t want to tell you about my failures because that would be whining. (Nice out, huh?) But I am going to warn you that this might be a shock to your system. The first time I did it, I made it exactly 12-1/2 minutes. But a commitment practice is really a recommitment practice. Lucky us. So when we screw up, we get to listen to what the voices in our heads say, smile, say, “Thank you and butt out,” and then re-ante-up.

Please join me in this New Year practice and feel free to post observations or direct criticisms about me and my blog (but then you lose you complainer you! Ha! Gotcha!). You can share thoughts including how this was particularly sadistic of me to suggest at the time of year when most of us are just recovering from a week with our in-laws… Thoughts can be shared on my Facebook page which is:

http://www.facebook.com/pages/Katie-Goodman/118933314790519

May your New Year be filled with irony,

-Katie