Eat, People (Not a Zombie Blog)

(On Huffington Post, or read below):

I’ve never written about this before, but when I was in high school and college I had a mild eating disorder. Nothing extreme, but a basic binge/purge cycle, although the purge was through excessive exercise. I would have been bulimic except that I couldn’t make myself throw up. And I tried. Believe me. Thank you strong Russian stomach. But it was fairly pervasive and took up a ton of my attention and energy.  I’m writing about this now because as an adult I have no obsession with food and body image whatsoever and as a feminist I think we really need to see this oppressive, anti-woman dilemma for what it is: um, an oppressive anti-woman dilemma.

It’s the holidays and invariable friends have started to bemoan – along with the anxiety about the anticipated home-for-the-holidays political fights and child-rearing-criticism to come –the expected weight gain. Here’s what I know. And I had to learn it, so I am writing this because I hope it helps others. Eating and being healthy and fit are completely natural. Babies know it and if we don’t screw up our kids too much, they know it. Beauty magazines don’t. Your best friend probably doesn’t. And your parents are your parents, so whatever you learned there, therapy was invented to undo.  (Across the board probably.) But this is about eating.

When I was 20 or so I found a book called Eating Awareness Training by Molly Groger. It is out of print because it was so against the grain of the times and culture that I just couldn’t endure. But it’s the cure for us. It’s ridiculously simple. Eat when you’re hungry. Stop when you’re full. Eat what you want. Don’t reward, punish, or really even pay a damn bit of difference to your thoughts about it all. Use your BODY to do its job. The book uses a 12-week retraining sort of program, though she’s adamant that it’s not a program or diet. It’s just learning to listen to your body. She uses a scale of 1 – 10. 1 is starving to death, 10 you fall into a drooling coma, you’re so full. Generally shoot for eating from a 3 – 5 or 6. Eat when hungry, stop when comfortable. Seriously. THAT IS IT. It’s how we were built to eat and live.

Look, of course there are exceptions and difficulties. I watch what cholesterol-inducing stuff I eat because I have horrible cholesterol, and yes I try to be a vegetarian for political reasons, but when I’m feeling exhausted I eat some damn protein. When I eat a lot of cheese I have salmon for my heart the next day if I feel like it. But seriously, I DON’T THINK ABOUT THIS CRAP.  I haven’t gained or lost weight — except obviously when I was pregnant — in 15 years. And I’m not “one of those lucky people” who doesn’t have to worry because I have a killer metabolism or something. I am a lazy piece of crap many weeks of the year (read: this week) and I just don’t want as much food during those times so I don’t gain weight then either. Am I sounding annoying? I’m sorry if I am, but seriously, I want to stress that I’m not lucky or special. This is everyone’s birthright and the culture has done everything possible to mess with our minds about this. Men, too, but women more. I mean, we can see Phillip Morris for what it is, convincing us to smoke. So why don’t we feel an incredible urge to attack our fashion magazines for making us crazy? Why are we still buying them?! And why are they still messing with us? They are run by strong, sometimes feminist, women. Let’s hold them accountable. Write letters. Send them a bathroom scale smashed to pieces. Or brownies!

When I was in college my girl friends and I talked a lot about dieting. Now, we talk about girls’ schools in Afghanistan, we talk about “legitimate rape,” we talk about the fact that New York is under water and climate change will continue to get worse, we talk about our children and our aging parents. We talk about why the fuck the Obama administration didn’t approve the morning after pill.

Do you know the diet industry –and we’re not just talking Diet Coke sales here– is a 40-billion dollar industry annually (Business Week: just in the US alone. We are griping over taxes going to support wars we don’t believe in, and lack of money going to our schools but we are doing this with our own little pocketbooks and neurotic anxiety. What if we all decided to take any money we spend this year on diet books, pills, liposuction, diet foods, cleanses, and gave it to our kids’ school. That same amount of money would literally cover the budget cuts for this year. Or give it to Planned Parenthood, or a woman’s political campaign or your aunt Bessie who’s losing her pension and is fairly odd and annoying and loves to bedazzle her hats with words like “Create!” and give them to you but you kind of love her anyway. Or, Jesus, give the money to ANYTHING else!

That’s my suggestion for this holiday. Start looking at what you’ve bought into. Get some therapeutic help to look at why you overeat. Make a decision that you are just not going to give it all the attention you normally do. EVER AGAIN. Learn how to judge when you are full and stop there. Don’t let family or anyone guilt you into eating more. Take half your meal home from the restaurant if you’re full. Listen to your body, not the culture. And then take all that energy and let’s fix some shit.


One response to “Eat, People (Not a Zombie Blog)

  1. Great blog, and kudos for having the courage to write it 🙂

    … quick note … one of the reasons we eat, is that the hunger signal is kind of like the yawning signal … when we yawn, it is because our CO2 levels are high & we need to exhale & inhale … when we are hungry, the body is seeking nutrients … and so it is vitally important that people:

    1 – clean out their gut (if required) to enable better nutrient absorption;
    2 – strengthen the digestive system to enable better digestion; and
    3 – eat nutritious foods, so that you are actually getting what the body is seeking, instead of just empty calories which do not satisfy the desire for food.


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